Sushi Date: I'm Soy Not Into You

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Ghosted /goh-sted/ - v. To end a relationship by cutting off all communication completely, without an explanation.

 

Let's be real, we've all been there—or done that. 

Expert ghosters are sort of like modern day versions of Houdini's Vanishing Elephant, except they look less like an elephant and more like that guy/girl you met on Mutual a few weeks ago. 

The truth is, being ghosted never feels all that great, regardless of if you were actually interested in the person. But it usually makes for a pretty great story—sometimes heartbreaking, almost always hilarious, and usually resulting in a memorable life lesson.

We recently caught up with Carter, one of the Big Apple's most eligible bachelors, to hear about his most recent rejection. His story is a consoling reminder that ghosting happens even to the best of us.

This marks the first of an ongoing series highlighting #ghosted stories—sent in by YOU! Don't worry, the identities of those involved are always protected, although we don't spare any of the juicy details. We hope you have a good laugh and, if anything, connect with other readers like you so you can drown in your single sorrows together. After all, isn't dating culture today one of the things that makes us the most peculiar?

 

Carter's Story - New York City

 

HOW DID YOU MEET?

We met at a YSA stake dance. Go figure! 

 

WHO MADE THE FIRST MOVE?

I came up to her group and started doing the Carlton dance from The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air.  She was sold.

 

WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST DATE LIKE AND HOW DID YOU FEEL ABOUT IT AFTERWARDS?

She was half Japanese so I thought it would be brilliant to get sushi—in retrospect... is that racist? Lol

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DID SHE LEAD YOU ON OR GIVE YOU ANY INDICATION THAT SHE WAS INTERESTED?

If by lead me on you mean we aggressively made out on the first date while watching a terrible stand up comedy special on Netflix, then yes she led me on.

 

DID YOU NOTICE ANYTHING SUSPICIOUS OR "OFF" ABOUT HER BEHAVIOR?

Halfway through our make out session she stopped and started crying.  She proceeded to give me a detailed history of her last relationship that had ended about 6 months prior.  She then explained that she thought she really liked me and wanted to make sure we went really slow.  I was on board with that plan.

 

HOW LONG HAD YOU BEEN GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER WHEN SHE GHOSTED YOU?

Oh about a week—I shot her a text the next day and never heard back. After about a week I called her and left a message to the affect of ..."Hope you're not dead, and if you're not dead, would appreciate a call back." I never got a call back but I did find out through friends that indeed she was not dead.

 

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU RAN IN TO HER OR IF SHE TRIED TO REACH OUT AGAIN?

I have seen her again a couple of times, and it was... awkward.  Lol

 

WHAT WAS YOUR BIGGEST TAKE-AWAY OR LESSON LEARNED FROM THE EXPERIENCE?

Well I learned what it's like to be ghosted... I literally thought for a minute there that she was either abducted by aliens, taken or possibly extinct.  Also I learned that if you don't hear from someone after that long it probably isn't a great idea to leave them a 60 second rambling voicemail you can't erase.


There you have it! Another casualty. The good news is, every #ghosted experience moves you one step closer to meeting the right one—or at least to being featured on the Peculiar People blog!

Do you have a #ghosted story we should share? Send us a message